Spikosauropod
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Re: GOD! I'm ugly.
That’s putting it plain.
We all have this archetype stamped into our brains and cultivated through years of watching Disney cartoons. But real people often smell bad and everyone grows old. The Blue Ferry only exists on the silver screen, and only then if you don’t think about her too hard. I can’t think of a single movie idol that I had a crush on when her career was first starting that I would want to have lunch with today. Everyone from Annette Funicello to Meg Ryan grew old. I don’t have an old wife, but I do have my freedom.
I can still imagine a relationship with anyone I please, and do it free of guilt. Some day the manifestation I am seeking will be available to me. But that is another dialogue altogether.
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10/23/2007, 8:20 pm
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B4tg1rl
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Re: GOD! I'm ugly.
spike if you always get bored in a month you need to find a smarter woman. and dont tell guys such women dont exist
todd if you are reaching conclusions, even if correct, but the woman isnt talking to you to get conclusions or answers, there's going to be a problem. sometimes women want to explain their feelings or their situation or associations they have and the point is the sharing, not the 'solution-finding'. if it helps, imagine this scenario - you come home from a terrible day at work. ALL you want to do is vent and convey your work frustration. but the girl stops you every 5 seconds to tell you what you could do to make it better. she may have great advice. you might have been interested if she brought up those ideas later. but at that moment, do you really want to be stopped every 5 seconds to be given advice? or see a blank look that tells you she has only listened enough to decide what advice to give later?
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10/29/2007, 1:00 pm
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toddcross
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Re: GOD! I'm ugly.
Actually, I rarely vent. I'm very self sufficent. I don't like to burden other people with anything. Sometimes I have to just keep my sanity, but mostly I am a loner. Not self absorbed at all. Just self reliant. I don't lean on others unless all other options are exhausted. But the real point in why I feel it whise to give up my search is basically I have looked at these magazines like Maxim, Stuff, and FHM, and out of 100 women i might find 1 that has that certain something. However, that's only half the problem, it's finding that 1 in 100 or 1 in 100 woman that finds my interesting and attractive.
If i had to describe myself, it would be the guy from Shaun of the Dead and Hot Fuzz. The fat one. lol
Bottom line, I just accept that what tickles my fancy may not be available to me. This past year I have learned to accept the limits I have and this is just another one.
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10/29/2007, 2:08 pm
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Spikosauropod
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quote: spike if you always get bored in a month you need to find a smarter woman.
But you see: you are missing the point. I do not find fault in women. There is nothing wrong with the vast majority of them. There are a lot of beautiful, intelligent, magnificent women running around.
The fault is in me. I am shallow. In my heart I know that I am not really looking for a woman but a fantasy creature that is always young, pretty and amusing, but who, mysteriously, wants to spend time with someone who shares none of her virtues. And it will not do that she merely be pretty. She must be constantly changing in truly impossible ways to suit my personal tastes. Whenever I discover that the woman I am with is not this impossible creature, she begins to look ugly to me. I loose interest in her and even begin to resent her and want her out of my life.
Why should I subject any more women to this? I have my computer, my dogs, and my imagination. I find what I need much better in my own creations. Even the products of my imagination never interest me for more than a couple of days, so I have to be constantly rotating, updating, and modifying them. The truth, I believe, is even stranger than this; but that would take a lot of explaining.
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10/29/2007, 2:40 pm
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toddcross
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I should change this to I'm gullible. I let myself feel lonely and tried to talk to a few women. Well after years I get the same response. I'm weird, or not good looking enough. I really think that women today have a seriously wacked out high school expectation of love. Thank god I'm starting to learn to love the dark side. lol
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11/11/2007, 1:44 pm
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Spikosauropod
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Sometimes you have to accept an ugly truth before you can see the beauty behind it.
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11/11/2007, 3:43 pm
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